Junior High Structure-NOT an Oxymoron

By Heather Flies Posted on October 03 2009


"You work with junior highers?"

"Yes, I do!"

"Oh, God bless you…"

As much as I love junior high students, I understand what drives this sympathy. Look around any mall, skate park, or movie theater after a Friday night early show and there they are: packs of young teenagers who seem completely disrespectful, unruly, self-centered, and oblivious to the rest of civilization. But in my 14 years of youth ministry, I've come to see that consistent expectations and behavioral boundaries can bring out the best behavior in even the wildest junior higher.

According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, I am an ESFP—which means people of my personality type have the tendency to be vivacious and spontaneous. In the ministry setting I lead, however, I swear by structure, order, and a clear set of rules for every event. When the doors of the youth room close at 7:00 p.m. on a Wednesday night, no one is permitted to leave (with the exception of the girl in desperate need of a tampon!).

At retreats, cabin assignments are read with the understanding that if anyone talks during the reading, the leader will start again from the beginning. During summer camp, students aren't allowed in the showers more than one hour before breakfast.

My volunteers move through the food or snack line only after the students have gone. And the mother of them all: no pranks. No, that's not a misprint. We're clear that there are no pranks on any retreat, mission trip, or camp.

Structure and Focus

Before you think I'm a complete control freak, understand I'm a major advocate of fun and craziness. But I'm convinced that fun and structure can coexist in junior high ministry. I find the rules our students live by allow for all kinds of disciplinary, programmatic, and emotional benefits.

Students are challenged to consider time management and assess their bladder needs (a lifelong skill, by the way!) before they enter the meeting room. No one is distracted by doors slamming or kids crawling across each other to get out of their seats during the teaching time. Keeping everyone quiet as we cover details like cabin assignments lets us get to the fun stuff sooner.

When we limit shower hours, the emphasis of summer camp is directed toward friendships instead of physical appearance. And while pranks seem like a great way for kids to connect, I find they quickly turn kids' focus away from the real purpose of the retreat and on to getting back at the cabin that took their sleeping bags.

Consider the Alternative

If we ever question the effectiveness of these rules, we're often reminded of what youth ministry looks like without them. Our church once hosted an overnight leadership retreat for junior high students. Speakers, worship, and get-to-know-you games led us to the pizza party and lights out. As my staff and I stood behind the pizza counter, we were shocked to see other adult leaders pushing kids out of the way in order to get to the pizza first.

When we all headed down for lights out, kids were running all over the building as their leaders slept with earplugs (before the lights were out!). In the morning, although other instruction had been given, girls from other groups were tripping over sleeping bodies as they hauled their bags to the bathroom two hours before breakfast was served. It was not only annoying, but disruptive to others and to the purpose of the leadership retreat.

Fans of Structure

You might expect my students to resist these efforts at creating structure. But I find even my 7th graders adjust well to the structure and quickly grow to appreciate it. Last year, one of my veteran 9th graders came to me, grabbing both of my arms. "Heather!" she shouted. "I almost died without you this weekend!" I have a great relationship with Kelsey, but even coming from her this seemed like a dramatic statement.

"What are you talking about?" I asked.

She told me she'd attended a Christian concert with another local church. "Kids were running all over the place, nobody was listening to the leaders, and I had no idea what we were supposed to be doing! And in the middle of it all, I thought, ‘I wish Heather was here!'"

Fans of our structure extend beyond age 15—our parents find assurance in the guidelines and know their kids are learning how to handle themselves in group settings. Another big plus is that our volunteer staff retention is way above the ministry average. Crowd control indeed falls within their job descriptions, but it's only a small part of what they spend their time doing. The rules and expectations allow these volunteers to spend more time having positive interactions with the kids. They see our system paying off again and again.

What it boils down to is this: I believe kids respond to whatever behavioral standard is set for them. We do our kids— and our ministries—a great disservice when our only requirements are that they don't destroy anything and we send them home alive. They (and we) are capable of so much more!




Comments

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From Andrew Burden on March 02, 2010

Structure also works best within the context of strong relationships. I have a huge group of boys that come to our midweek program. I did some intentional hanging out a couple months ago with a couple of key kids that many of the others look to for their cues. We had a blast, and also took some time to talk about how I needed their help to make everyone’s experience at youth group enjoyable. I wouldn’t say it’s been “night and day,” but I can definitely point them back to that conversation when they need redirection.

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From Jonathan on March 16, 2010

Thanks so much for voicing this! I thought I was a freak for being a structured junior high leader. God put me, the structure-freak, in charge of junior high, and the crazy fun guy is in charge of high school, and it works GREAT. The high schoolers are more responsible with a little more freedom (generally).

For junior highers, the structure is like a fireplace in which they can burn strong and bright. Without it, their energy is undirected and can burn down the house!

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From Dean on February 15, 2011

I can definitely agree with everyone, especially Jonathan on this one!  I am huge on having structure, whether its game, lesson, or just hanging out.  I totally what you mean by Junior Highers burning bright with structure but burning the house down without it!

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From Jewell on April 14, 2011

Are there any books on how to implement more structure and crowd control. we are not just beginning at this but we have just added a 5th grade group-and they are a whole new animal-and our current structure is not working. Please help!

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From Gary Adams on March 28, 2012

Love it!  Love it!  Love it!  Thanks Heather for these great insights.  I am in my 28th year as a youth pastor and I serve as the Middle School Pastor at Eagle Christian Church.  We run close to 3,000 each weekend and I have 350, 6th-8th graders and I ALWAYS stress to our 40 volunteer staff to SET THE BAR HIGH and wow.. how strange.. our kids hit it every time.  They know we have high expectations for them to be respectful, loving & Christ like (what a concept?).  I am a father of 5 kids with my youngest being 14 and in 8th grade.  His older brother & sisters are kind and respectful people in life.  God bless you Heather for standing up for whats right and true!!

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From Edrin Williams on July 24, 2013

“What it boils down to is this: I believe kids respond to whatever behavioral standard is set for them.”  Thanks for the encouragement, Heather. It’s good to know that I’m not an alien!

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